Body Confidence for New Moms

It’s important to try to feel good about the way you look, especially right after having a baby when all your hormones are going crazy. But your body just went through so many changes, and it is super hard sometimes to deal with them.

Since I had my son via c-section in May, my body has changed a lot. Well, really, it all started with getting pregnant, obviously. I didn’t just get a baby bump and put on 20 pounds – my body changed. I’ve now lost all that baby weight and my figure is far from what it was pre-pregnancy.

My boobs didn’t really get that much larger during my pregnancy, but they certainly did when my milk came in a few days after I had the baby. But my hips got wider when I was pregnant! I started to notice it fairly early on.

And now, since I had a c-section, I have a sensitive/numb incision scar and a weird flap of skin. From what I’ve read, that flap is fairly common and it is referred to by many as the c-section “pooch.” That is a good way to describe it (I hate the word flap anyways but that’s all that came to mind before I read about it).

Dressing for my new body is difficult. I actually liked my pregnant body for the most part and I kinda miss it. Most of my dresses don’t fit anymore because of my chest size. Some maternity clothes are awkward on me now, and I definitely can’t wear the pants with the big belly panel. But I will be honest – I am still not wearing real pants. They are uncomfortable and awkward between dealing with my incision area sensitivity and “da pooch.” Regarding shirts, some also don’t fit because of my chest and I need to be mindful not to highlight “da pooch.”

But, whatever. The increase in my hips and boobs only make my waist look smaller. I’m learning to dress for my new body. I’m learning to love it.

My “body confidence for new moms” tips:

  1. Purchase some new clothing items if you can swing it. I love the feeling of wearing stuff I just bought, and especially feeling cute in them. Like I said, this is an important time to try to actually feel okay in your own skin. For me, at least, not looking “good” stresses me out.
  2. Actually wear real clothes. Try not to stay in your jammies all day…I found that depressing. It’s hard sometimes with a new baby, but I always put on at least some cute yoga clothes.
  3. Start getting back into an exercise routine – it makes me feel good that I’m at least working on my body and trying to get more toned. The endorphins also help!
  4. Realize that things may never be the same. I don’t want to say goodbye to some of my pre-pregnancy clothes, but I’m starting to go through them and realize that they just don’t fit right anymore and they may never fit right again. It’s sad, but now I can add in new items (and I love shopping!)
  5. LOOK AT YOURSELF STRAIGHT IN THE MIRROR. I have 20,000 stretch marks. I have a huge scar on my tummy. I hate that little pooch! But I look at myself in the mirror and I’m getting used to it.

 

Like, I had a baby. All the changes are perfectly normal. That’s what happens. You and I have no reason to feel crappy about it.

 

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The day after his 2 month shots… :(

Introducing my son, Oliver…

 

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He is TWO MONTHS OLD now! Time seems to be flying by. These are some pictures I took on a very fussy day…the day after his first big set of shots. I felt so bad for the little guy. He was so tired but couldn’t sleep very well. There was a lot of walking around and doing different things this day as I tried to soothe him.

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  1. jeg har faktisk hele 13 Biyelhylllr i min lille leilighet pÃ¥ 70 kvadrat. Brukes til oppbeavring av bøker, filmer, pynt, klær, sko og annet. kunne ikke klart meg uten! 😀 tør ikke tenke pÃ¥ hvor mange sÃ¥nne hyller i ulike varianter jeg har skrudd sammen oppigjennom Ã¥rene… den grønne er bare superkul! *♥*

  2. Love the keyboard on your laptop!For active rest I ride my cruiser bike (that I cannot go fast on!), go for an easy swim, or take the pup for a long walk. Lately, I’ve been trying to add in some gentle yoga on my recovery days.Have a good day at work!

  3. Happy Thanksgiving! I appreciate this message today, Kim. I will simply answer your questions by saying that my gratitude is tied to my praise and my praise is tied to my gratitude. I love the simplicity of this Spirit-inspired lesson. I grasp the depths of this more and more with each passing day. HalleluJAH!(Meditation/Praise Focus: Psalm 34:1; 1 Thessalonians 5:18)

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“Christian Lifestyle” videos

I’m pleased to announce that I am making what I call “Christian lifestyle” videos now on YouTube! Here is the link to my new “Maggie Winterton” channel.

I really enjoy making videos. I got started with video editing in my high school broadcast journalism class. Honestly, broadcast journalism is what I planned to go into after high school, rather than magazine or newspaper journalism. I did not end up going into a journalism major, but I think what I do with blogging is kind of journalism after all! Anyways…

I did “newsy” assignments in that class, but I also had a WEEKLY MAKEUP SHOW. It was very fun. Then I started making similar fashion, beauty and DIY videos for YouTube in 2013 on my own. I decided to stop because 1. I wanted to focus on writing 2. It seemed shallow at the time.

Then when I took over Devotional Diva last year, I decided to make devotional videos. It just didn’t work out because I boxed myself into a structure for them, and it was sometimes hard to come up with topics and not ramble.

So I’m basically trying to blend fun and faith (You know, I just wrote that, but I think that might be my new “tagline” for the channel…) in this new channel. I want to do style, diy, home, family…”lifestyle-y” things; but also devotionals and Christ-centered videos.

I hope you’ll tune in! Below is my most recent video on my “maternity style.” I would have had a video up this week, too, if I wasn’t hit with a nasty cold!

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  2. Was any action taken by adults/ mature personages present during this cheering to explain to these jubilant thugs that their obvious hatred and inability to react in a proper way to such a horrible atrocity such as the Twin Towers atrocity constitutes a certain lack of morals and emotional well being on their part?

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Moving, babies and Christmas

How terrible I have been keeping up with my li’l mw.com! I’ve felt so neglectful, and I really needed to share all of my news on here!

The reason I haven’t been active here is really a multitude of reasons. Yes, we got that condo we wanted and we moved — In September. It’s December now and there’s still so much unpacking to do.

That’s because

1. The move went really crappily. We hired a moving company to only help us unload. We booked them for 2 hours, because all they had to do was just put all of our stuff in our house. It’s a three-story house and all the movers did was put everything in our garage and spend an hour and a half trying to get our fridge in the door. They were terribly unprofessional — most of the time they spent trying to get the fridge in the door was mostly just “talking” (with a lot of joking) about what they should do. We (honestly mostly just Brandon) have gradually been bringing stuff up all the stairs. I hate to complain about stuff online, but whatever, this is my blog and it was a terrible situation to be in when

2. I’m pregnant!!! I got so stressed out, and there wasn’t much I could do to help with the move. This pregnancy has been very rough physically. I had a heads-up from my cardiologist before getting pregnant that pregnancy would be hard for me with my heart condition. He was very right, but I didn’t expect my stomach (or my immune system) to have such a hard time. I was sick during the first trimester, but once I hit week 13 it got so much worse. I lost about 10 pounds, was almost hospitalized for dehydration. I’ve had a flu/cold thing for almost 3 months and at one point, I could barely breathe I had so much gunk in my lungs. It has slowed me down a TON.

But last week, I felt my baby kick for the first time. You know how they say babies make you forget about all the bad stuff in your life? It’s true. We’re going to find out the gender very soon too, just in in time for Christmas 🙂

Here is a link to my post on Devotional Diva announcing my pregnancy. It’s called, “Little Miracle on the Way!” 🙂

Merry Christmas!

 

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  1. Wonder ma tu sei una fabbrica di idee!Cavoli se sei brava, complimenti, idea spdaelidn..peccato non avere ancora della prole per cui sfruttare tutte queste meraviglie! 😉

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Pictures, Please: September 2014

I thought I would try to take it easy on MW these coming weeks because….we are moving! Yes, things are finally happening with the condo and we are about to close. Anywho, that’s why there wasn’t a post last week and because this is a pictures post.

The picture above is from my instagram on Brandon’s birthday. He is a big Tesla fan and he got to drive one! He was very excited.

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We went to Disneyland the day before Brandon’s birthday. We went for mine earlier in the year, so it was only fair. He had a really good time. His favorite thing was meeting Tinkerbell.

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We got the cats a stroller. They exist. It’s really nice because we can easily take them to a park to run around, and they LOVE to be outside.

Until later!

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Welcome, September!

Hope you all had a great labor day weekend like my family did! Very relaxing 🙂

I want to recap and announce a couple things:

1. Devotional Diva’s new fall posting schedule is: Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday

Guest posts have returned!! The first one is up today: You Can Have a Peaceful Pregnancy by Sarah Coleman

2. I had a guest post on The Laundry Moms blog: Encouragement Makes a Difference by Maggie Winterton

It’s about how my mom made such a difference in my life, leading to my writing career!

That’s all for today! MW.com will continue to have new posts on Wednesdays 🙂

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I Need Help Around the House…And That’s Okay

Brandon’s awesome new chore chart from Blessed Beyond A Doubt

 

My husband, Brandon, and I have decided on a few chores he can do to help around the house. I’ve never let him do much, really.

I probably should have listened to myself and my husband last Saturday.

The plans for our evening had fallen apart, and I was having a meltdown.

“Everything just seems terrible,” I said. And at the time, it was a true statement. That’s how I felt.

“If I just go to sleep I have to get up tomorrow and do all the meal planning for the week and make the grocery list — and I don’t like meal planning or making grocery lists at allllll. And I have to do a bunch of cleaning and I just don’t really like cleaning anymore. And like, I do most of the cooking and I don’t even like cooking!! And then it’s just another busy week all over again!” I irrationally wailed.

“You’re just kind of burnt out right now?” My husband asked.

“Yeah, because it’s like I did everything around the house and it was fine, but now I’ve got a lot of other stuff going on.”

“What do you need help with?”

“Nothing, it’s fine.”

No, Maggie, it isn’t.

I was having a meltdown, so I wasn’t in my normal state of mind. I was upset. I was stressed out. I embellished some of my chore descriptions and how I feel about them, but essentially everything I said was true.

A few days later, I re-evaluated. 

I’m really busy right now. I have a lot of responsibilities, many temporary. It’s not going to be like this forever, but today I’ve realized that I could use some help right now.

For years I’ve intentionally taken care of 95% of everything at home. It was great when I didn’t have a lot of other responsibilities. But now it’s time for a change. I let go of my pride, which is always a good thing. 

My husband is willing to help around the house, as he always has been, and I’m finally letting him.

 

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Pictures, Please: July 2014

Hello again!

I feel like I talked a lot last week, and I wanted to do a photo-based post today. So here are some photos I’ve taken in the past couple weeks.

The first photo collage is all about my kitties. Basically, my life is just all about my kitties. Brigit always wants to do what Brandon and I are doing. She’s a little copycat. And she doesn’t like when we are on the floor. I think she worries that we are hurt or something. Here, she is sniffing Brandon/giving him a little kiss while he foam rolls. And she does a little stretching with him, too. Zero, below left, is tucked in to some blankets at the end of our bed while Brigit checks out the situation. On the bottom right, I caught the two of them cuddlin’ on my filming sofa.

maggie wintertonIn this next collage, you can see my not-so-awesome mirrored elevator selfie. Just as I was taking the picture, the doors opened. You can still kind of see Brandon and I! The middle pictures and the top right photo were taken in Pacific beach last weekend. It was a beautiful day that ended in a beautiful sunset! And finally, Brandon wanted to get some new summer shoes to wear with his new booming short collection (this is the first year he has ever worn shorts and he loves them now!) so we went to Nordstrom Rack to look for some. Instead, I found some REALLY COOL Italian loafers. He thought they were not exactly “summer shoes.”

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Here you can see the new summer shoes he got — They’re orange and blue Sperry Top Sider’s. But this is my dream kitchen and Ikea has it on display right now. I had to take a picture (doesn’t Brandon look so at home?!) because when I have the chance to build it, I want to remember what exactly what it looks like!

I probably won’t get my dream kitchen for a long time, but our offer on the condo I mentioned last week was accepted!

 

Hope you enjoyed this look into my life!

 

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  1. This piece was cogent, wet-lwritlen, and pithy.

  2. Den SKAL lille mini-Macsha da eje! Hvis jeg havde haft en pige skulle hun da helt sikkert have den…. Afsted med dig pÃ¥ indkøb! Bare lad Nicolas blive hjemme, nÃ¥r han sÃ¥ engang ser sutten pÃ¥ baby, er han med garanti solgt til stanglakrids!

  3. Ser ut som du har system i sakene dine Marie! Skikkelig fint og ryddig hobbyrom. Drømmer om nytt hobbyrom med to breie benkeplater og masse hylleplass..får aldri nok plass når eg sett i gang!Nusselig dukkehus:-)God veke til dokke alle 4!

  4. Auf gar keinen Fall die weiße Rasse.Die hat ausgedient.Ich hätte lieber die Indianer würden die Welt erben. Denn Tötende Roboter-Zombies braucht die Erde mit Garantie nicht mehr.Schon gar keine die matsch in der Birne sind wegen Religionen.

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What’s Going on in My Life (A brief summary)

Since this is my personal blog, I want to try to keep updates on my life on here. It won’t be too detailed or anything — it’s just for fun.

I think I will call it “what’s going on in my life.” Maybe I need a better title… By far the biggest part of my life right now is writing! That’s pretty cool to say. I didn’t know if that would ever be possible! In addition to the writing I’m doing for this blog and Devotional Diva, I’m also doing some editing. Kind of goes along with being an editor! When I was editing for my high school paper, I loved it. I never thought I would be able to do that sort of thing again. I feel really blessed. However, I’ve never responded to so many emails before!! But that’s a good thing for Devotional Diva 🙂

I’m also making YouTube videos once a week for the Devotional Diva channel — I’m really enjoying it!

I’ve been asked about my filming background — while I plan to do a filming set up and office tour soon, I thought I would share a little about where I film right now. This is me on my “filming couch” Devotional Diva YouTube channel screen shot on Maggiewinterton.com This owl pillow was featured on my Instagram in that photo at the beginning of this post. It’s actually from Ikea, but I know Ikea’s aren’t everywhere (like there are NONE in my home state of Iowa) so here’s a link to amazon if you need this pillow like I did when I first saw it (surprisingly it’s even prime!)

Any other owl lovers in the house?

Well you’ll be pleased to hear that the “cover” for my little filming couch is actually a kid’s owl quilt. I know, I know. It’s the Circo® Love n Nature Quilt Set. I just…had to have it? The hounds tooth pillow is also from Ikea, but I also found it on Amazon! Sadly I couldn’t find the pillow that’s on the top of the couch…but it was from Ikea. So those are a few of the decorative touches I have in my filming area — more on that in future posts though!

If you haven’t seen the Devotional Diva YouTube videos, you should really check them out!! (Click this link to go to the channel)

Besides all that stuff, I’m currently going through a chiropractic rehab program for my neck and upper back. On a whim, Brandon and I got free evaluations with x-rays. Secretly, I just wanted Brandon to get help because he had a lot of back pain. It turned out my neck was in worse shape than his back! I wish I had my x-ray, because it says my neck is negative zero degrees. Yes, my neck is slightly negative. I thought that was pretty funny — a human’s neck is supposed to be positive 40 degrees. So I’m doing about 2 hours of chiropractic care, physical therapy/rehab, massage and lidocaine injections 3-4 days a week. It is almost like a part-time job! But I’m seeing improvement. Brandon and I also are…*drum roll please*

trying to buy a house/condo!

Yep, it’s serious. We have a real estate agent and everything. I feel so cool. We looked at four properties — really just the tip of the iceberg of the ones we’re interested in. We put our first offer in on a condo, then put in a counter offer, and now we’re waiting to find out if it’s accepted! All of this craziness going on (plus a couple things I’m not at liberty to discuss at this moment!) has made me pretty stressed out. Hence, the 2 AM apple cider drinking with my cat from that top instagram photo. Sometimes a girl just needs to relax!!   By the way, those are affiliate links up there. I was going to put links there anyways, so I figured, “why not?” I’ll try them out.

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  1. huhuu. penat giler, gerak from jb kul 8.45mlm, smpi ayer keroh benti jap n teruskan peaajlrnan, nak dekat simpang ampat tu jem giler! ingatkan jem sebab byk kete tp tetibe kawan msj kate ade eksiden. about 1hour 30min gak la hadap jem tu, lebih kurg 10km perjalanan. Bus dah dialihkan ketepi, tp masyaAllah, teruk bus delima tu..

  2. Rena, you have a tin ear if you think her last two albums sucked! And Sean, what the hell are you trying to say about P!nk? P!nk is a vocalist as well. A damn good one at that. On that song, this song is good. Not great but good. The three new songs I’ve heard leave me wanting more. If that’s all of the new stuff on the Greatest Hits album, then I’m a bit worried for Kellegend.

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How Do You Bring God into Your Everyday Life?

We call ourselves Christians, but how do you bring God into your everyday life?

Think about it. Is God in your life every day?

If so, that’s great! But I know many of us, myself included, struggle with letting God be a part of our everyday life.

It can be hard! We’re busy. We’re tired. We’re caught up in work, school, family, friends and other obligations.

If we do attend a church, it might be hard to make it every week (I’m certainly guilty of this lately…)

Late last summer, I was pretty busy working as a nanny, writing a book, being a wife, keeping a house, doing physical therapy for my pulled hamstring, going to a women’s Bible study group, and other little obligations. I was struggling to find time to complete my usual Bible study in the mornings, I wasn’t always making it to church on Sundays, and I was feeling pretty crappy about everything.

So I learned how to infuse God into my day without putting too much pressure on myself.

I’m going to share a few tips on how to bring God into your everyday life that I hope will help you out, too:

  1. Make prayer a habit.

So like, this is actually something I’ve been practicing since I was about 10. My mom and dad never pressured me to pray every night, but I decided to adopt the practice myself.

Before I fall asleep every night, I pray. I don’t kneel by my bed or anything – I keep it super casual. Sometimes I even do it while I’m washing my face before bed.

Now, I don’t know if this is weird or anything, but I make a visual flow chart in my head for what to pray about. It looks kind of like this:

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But every night what offshoots from the basic categories is different. Some topics stay for a really long time, while others are quickly resolved.

The little flow chart makes it easy for me to efficiently pray about everything I want to pray about.

If you’re struggling with finding time to pray, try to pick a good time that you could make a habit. Stick with it, and you soon enough you should start feeling weird if you don’t do it at that time.

So then you’ve connected with God at least once that day!

  1. Read Devotional Books

This has been a big key for me in really learning about God.

I didn’t do much Bible studying until I was an adult, and when I started, I did it in the mornings.

That worked for awhile, but everyone knows there are days where it’s like YOU JUST DO NOT HAVE TIME.

So this year, I really focused on reading devotional books that don’t require a lot of looking up long scriptures yourself. And I’m doing them in the evening instead.

I literally just finished reading my friend Renee’s book Dream Devotional: 40 Days of Hope
It’s recently in print!

It’s awesome. I mean, I loved it. It really catered to the dreamer in me 🙂

I look forward to that little bit of peace at the end of my day. I’m able to make time for this reading a lot easier than in the morning right now, too. And I think it might be helping me sleep a tad easier!

Most devotional books have little prayers at the end of each day or chapter, which gives me more opportunity to pray. And in all honesty, I can whip through a day of a devotional and pray in about 10 minutes – it’s not a huge time commitment.

  1. Ask yourself, “What would Jesus do in this situation?”

No, I do not wear one of those WWJD bracelets anymore. I just try to ingrain it in my mind and think about it throughout the day.

And I specifically think about what JESUS would do. Not how to act like a Christian. It’s a sad fact that Christians don’t act like Jesus wants us to all the time.

My mom always used to remark how, as soon as the service was over at a church we went to when I was younger, people would cut us off in the parking lot.

That’s why I don’t say try act like a Christian – try to act like Jesus. He is the best example.

 

So those are three easy ways you can infuse God into your everyday life. I hope that maybe they can help you out in your Christian walk!

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