Brandon’s awesome new chore chart from Blessed Beyond A Doubt
My husband, Brandon, and I have decided on a few chores he can do to help around the house. I’ve never let him do much, really.
I probably should have listened to myself and my husband last Saturday.
The plans for our evening had fallen apart, and I was having a meltdown.
“Everything just seems terrible,” I said. And at the time, it was a true statement. That’s how I felt.
“If I just go to sleep I have to get up tomorrow and do all the meal planning for the week and make the grocery list — and I don’t like meal planning or making grocery lists at allllll. And I have to do a bunch of cleaning and I just don’t really like cleaning anymore. And like, I do most of the cooking and I don’t even like cooking!! And then it’s just another busy week all over again!” I irrationally wailed.
“You’re just kind of burnt out right now?” My husband asked.
“Yeah, because it’s like I did everything around the house and it was fine, but now I’ve got a lot of other stuff going on.”
“What do you need help with?”
“Nothing, it’s fine.”
No, Maggie, it isn’t.
I was having a meltdown, so I wasn’t in my normal state of mind. I was upset. I was stressed out. I embellished some of my chore descriptions and how I feel about them, but essentially everything I said was true.
A few days later, I re-evaluated.
I’m really busy right now. I have a lot of responsibilities, many temporary. It’s not going to be like this forever, but today I’ve realized that I could use some help right now.
For years I’ve intentionally taken care of 95% of everything at home. It was great when I didn’t have a lot of other responsibilities. But now it’s time for a change. I let go of my pride, which is always a good thing.
My husband is willing to help around the house, as he always has been, and I’m finally letting him.